Monday, May 17, 2010
Love and marriage, love and marriage....They go together like a horse and carriage.
This weekend, our neice, Brandy, married a wonderful young man, Heath. We are so happy for them, and they are truly in love. The celebration of love and the uniting of hearts seems to touch everyone. Everyone seems to long for that special someone to spend the rest of their life with. I know for me, it seemed like it would never happen, but I was only a week shy of 25 when I did marry.
Our Sunday School lessons for the month of May have also been on marriage. This brings up so much within me. I love being married, but I love my husband more than the fact that we are married. I think as a young girl I was more concerned with getting married. Although, my parents were very instrumental in telling and showing us what a marriage should really mean.
One year at a missionary conference, my friend, Karen Adams, (who I think was 7 at the time, which would've made me about 8,) told me that we should start praying about finding the man that God wanted for us. I will admit, I did not make this a matter of prayer every day, but from that point on, it was something that I did pray about.
Men and women are so different, but God really made us so perfectly for one another. We were meant to balace one another out. We were designed to fulfill His outline of marriage. When we follow God's design, our marriage can be as melodious as a symphony. It can flow as easily as the creek that runs in front of my house. When we play off of one another's strengths and give strength for one another's weaknesses, we grow more as one.
I am not trained in marriage. I have only been married 6+ years, but I feel that God has not let any of this precious time be wasted. He has used every detail, every circumstance, every trial, every celebration to mold us into one harmonious life. I would say a few of the things that I have learned that really stick out to me would be these:
1. Choose your battles. Is it really worth arguing over? Is it worth being at odds with your mate? Wouldn't you rather be on the same side and unify your team?
2. Build one another up. Don't criticize what you think they are not doing right, but compliment and praise them for what they are doing right. Do you want to be criticized all the time?
3. Do unto others. Ah, the golden rule. This should be applied to our lives in general, but especially our marriages. Treat your mate the way you want them to treat you. If you want your needs met, start by meeting theirs.
4. Be best friends. Don't just vent your frustrations when you need someone to talk to...call them first when you have news worth sharing. Laugh together. Spend time together outside of your house, "hangin out" and not directed at one's specific interest, but something you both like.
5. Most importantly~Keep God first. Keep God first in your personal life, focusing on growing in Him, daily. If you put Him first as an individual, you will grow in your marriage and strengthen your bond. You will eventually, automatically fall into His plan for your marriage.
God is so good to us, and he has brought George and I to such a wonderful place in our lives. Our union has been molded and redefined and is so happy. We are so blessed to have this love, it truly is a gift from God.